If we are to talk about a person’s life or the impact that he or she has over others lives, then a concept of circle is best to explain it.
Every person has a effect of his existence on others. That we will term as a circle. It’s same as the halo around the moon in night sky. This circle’s radius depends on the person and how he/she is to others, his/her attitude and feelings. The radius grows larger as our weight or impact in society increases. Mahatma Gandhi has this circle with vast radius that it enclosed all country within. A normal person has this radius covering his family, friends, relatives etc. But this is a outer circle that the world can see. It includes all the good and bad, desired and undesired, direct & indirect things of our lives. It simply denotes how much people are there in our life, considering any possible way of their relevance.
There is a circle which defines how much people we are actually having in our life. It’s the circle containing those people that we choose, prefer or love to have around. It’s not like the outer circle in which the same is done by time or the circumstances. Everyone have this inner circle which cannot be seen easily. In short it is the power house which backs up us with the strength to stand firm. “He/she is there for me!” Even if we slipped down from the track or went on the wrong way, there is a trust in our mind reinforced by this circle which assures that they will be there for us, to support, to stop, to bring us back.
One who have this inner circle strong, they are the most fortunate. The people in inner circle knows a real you, they accept just as we are and not that only, they strive to mend our mistakes and bad habits while keeping the core untouched. They are not just supportive to us, no. They are going to pick you up even when you are dirty and stained, no matter how low we have fallen they come for us, love us despite the past of misdeeds and lend a hand to come out of that pitfall. The inner circle holds onto us in better or worse.
Now drawing this inner circle is not an overnight recipe nor as similar to the outer circle. In outer circle we can use money, charisma, attitude or even dynastic legacy to add up to it’s radius but for inner circle these won’t work.
Whatever we truly are since the childhood and the way we have kept ourselves tied to people around is the point of worth in constructing the inner circle. It’s not about winning people’s mind. Money can’t show it’s magic at this inner side. It’s about entrusting our faith and soul in their heart. It’s like, “what you gives, it comes back to you.” In other words, if we have a strong inner circle, it means we are also a part of somebody’s inner circle; life reciprocates..!
The stars of the inner space could be anyone. Someone has his/her best friend from childhood, sometimes it’s mother or the sibling, it could be uncle or teacher. They are those to whom we choose to have along and at the same time they approve to hold our hand. It’s more like duplex communication. These people in the inner circle never lie to each other nor they keep secrets. No masks and pretending acts. They don’t need to make calls or meet regularly to have grasp on their bond. They harbour faith in each other, they know that no matter how far away they are from each other there will always be that invisible strings between them.
This inner circle never lingers with suspicion on our actions because they know us like an open book. They never need to say cheering words for us because we know they have got our back all the time. This trust is the frame of the inner circle.
The person who limits the radius of inner circle to zero has to keep his deep griefs and secrets within himself/herself as there is no one with him inside to whom he/she can confide them. A day comes when the secrets and griefs and sorrows pile up so high that it’s burden starts to collapse on the person itself giving him/her the depression and anger. They gets lost in those dark tunnels of mind thereby becoming more and more lonely.
Isn’t it better to have a lamp when the darkness fall, a hand to hold when ground tremble and a soul when our own tether. Explore or build the inner circle of own and we will never find ourselves lonely, not even in afterlife.
(Translated, reformed and reposted from anonymous post)